Beginner's Guide To Spanking and Whipping

Are you thinking of introducing bondage spanks and whips in your relationship? Exploring the world of BDSM can be an exciting journey, offering new ways to connect with your partner and deepen your understanding of pleasure and power dynamics. If you're new to spanking and whipping, it's essential to approach these activities with care, respect, and knowledge. This guide will introduce you to the basics of spanking and whipping, ensuring a safe and enjoyable experience for both you and your partner.

Why Should You Try Spanking and Whipping?

Most people find this fun and enjoyable. Spanking or whipping arouses your inner pleasures. By spanking the backside of your partner you stimulate one of the major nerves that supplies the genitals. Spanking increases blood flow to the strike surface, and therefore can cause the genitals to become engorged. Couples could have different reasons why they’d settle for spanking and whipping as bondage practices. Some will go for pleasures and fun, while others will choose punishment and pain. Consider discussing this between the two of you to agree on one common ground. Furthermore, you can introduce the spanks and whips in foreplay to make it pleasurable.

Use Safe Words or Cues

A safe word is said to indicate that you have been pushed beyond your boundaries, comfort zone, or pain threshold. Safewords are essential to any bondage play. Therefore, no spanking or whipping session will begin without them. Moreover, a phrase or word should be agreed upon by the playmates before the play starts. In the mention of the word, the game can continue, pause or stop. The common words used during spanking or whipping sessions are colors, including red, green, and yellow. You may utilize the "traffic light" system, where 'green' means go forward, 'yellow' means close to the limit, and 'red' means stop.Furthermore, consider mastering a few gestures to use, especially when the bondage play involves ball gags that limit your speech.

Where to Strike Your Spanks and Whips

Where are the safest places on your body to hit? Preferably, aim areas with fleshy tissues.

These are mainly the buttocks and thighs. But you can also extend on the back. However, you will have to do it gently to prevent any injuries. Don't hit your partner around the kidney or joints since these areas are sensitive. Other areas to avoid when spanking include any skin surface where the bones are close to the surface of the skin. The spine, neck and any soft areas covering the internal organs are also to be avoided.

For beginners, consider sticking on the butt and thighs for a comfortable and safe experience. However, you can also spank or whip your partners on their genitals, breasts, and feet after graduating to advanced play.

How Intense and How Long?

Most couples take long to figure out how hard or long they want it, especially the beginners. Some people like to be beaten until they cannot sit down without a sigh. Others like to be touched only gently and tenderly. If you have any doubts about what needs your submissive, just ask. This will prevent you from applying it too gently or wildly.

Generally, beginners should focus more on soft spanks and whips until they gain enough experience. How long? This depends on your submissive partner, obviously they should have a way to stop the spanking play if necessary.

Aftercare

Spanking and whipping can be a thrilling addition to your intimate life. As you explore these practices, remember that the goal is mutual enjoyment and connection. Aftercare is the process of reassuring your partner that you care for them. Take time to offer lots of hugs, loving touches, and engage in an open chat about the experience you've just shared. This helps both of you feel safe, connected, and ready for more adventures together.